tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post8309770203960422989..comments2023-05-09T04:03:45.832-06:00Comments on O-Town Ramblings: MilestonesO-town Ramblingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12462693501650732288noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-29978035622229849782011-09-02T17:56:06.313-06:002011-09-02T17:56:06.313-06:00Peace be with you and your family. Life can be ver...Peace be with you and your family. Life can be very hard. I am among your mom's cyberfriends and her journey. God bless you.Marehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10392772375911488097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-60804291796685278182011-08-24T11:39:16.019-06:002011-08-24T11:39:16.019-06:00Your mom's and your sharing here helps those w...Your mom's and your sharing here helps those who are going through grief right now. Thank you for bearing your soul, for showing that healing takes time.Rosaria Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03133147851332084180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-67251962912508402652011-08-22T20:57:58.835-06:002011-08-22T20:57:58.835-06:00Keicha, I come from your Mom's blog, and I'...Keicha, I come from your Mom's blog, and I'm so glad I did. I deeply admire your honesty in being able to speak with such love and honesty about your feelings -- it's something I admire about Sally, too. To be able to do so is difficult, but so very healthy and in its way and in its time, healing. Thank you for allowing us to see this courage. You set a fine example, though I know that's not what you intend. Nonetheless, we can all learn from what you have experienced in such a raw and difficult way. Much caring to you.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17482528482559445943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-39618255500994661842011-08-22T07:43:57.400-06:002011-08-22T07:43:57.400-06:00Sadly we usually miss the moment when their depres...Sadly we usually miss the moment when their depresion is too much . Along with grief we need to learn to recognize when those near us are so down and get them to help to prevent the act of self desruction. Your grief is probably harder just because of not having been able to stop her and that must be the wort feeling. Many of us know of a person who gave up. We all need to learn more about ways to prevent this. While you voice your pain you also speak of the need to prevent it in others. What can be done and how? Have you found out? One of the commentators mentions she survived and is glad . Hope she shares how she did overcome. We could all benefit.Heidrun Khokhar, KleinsteMottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174142810114806410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-73556311778170967442011-08-22T04:00:12.602-06:002011-08-22T04:00:12.602-06:00I came over form your mum's blog and was going...I came over form your mum's blog and was going to just look and quietly steal away. However, after reading your post, I felt I couldn't do this without leaving a comment.<br /><br />I too, lost my closest friend to suicide many years ago. Anger was all part of the process of grieving. I did feel strong anger that she'd left us all, including her beautiful young girls.<br />I also felt guilt because I hadn't managed to stop her doing this awful thing.<br /><br />Thank you for writing about all the emotions that well up from a grieving person who has lost someone to suicide. I think suicide is perhaps worse than an ordinary death (I might be wrong about this) but it does make you feel you've been deliberately abandoned.<br />Maggie X<br /><br /><a href="http://granniemay.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Nuts in May</a>Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-70472697481750948222011-08-21T19:20:22.615-06:002011-08-21T19:20:22.615-06:00Keicha, As with many others, I've become a bl...Keicha, As with many others, I've become a blogging friend of your mom, and only recently discovered we had something sadly in common. My son took his life at the age of 30, almost six years ago. My daughters, his sisters, lost their only brother. Your post reminded me so much of the many times I've mentioned to my youngest how much she reminded me of her brother. Not so surprisingly, about two years after he died, she began telling me she wished she was dead. Thankfully, lots of prayer and a solid counselor saved her from herself. <br /> <br />Your post meant so much to me. I've learned over the years of grief myself, that it is the connections with others that helps me heal, and helps me move on. But there is a hole in our lives, as I know you understand. My heartfelt wish is for you and your family to be grateful for time spent with Julie, and to forgive her.Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15923693784234135636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-52252646417006793212011-08-20T13:25:21.569-06:002011-08-20T13:25:21.569-06:00I, too, am a blogging friend of your mom, and I ha...I, too, am a blogging friend of your mom, and I have been very moved by what she has written about Julie's death. This beautifully written and powerful post deepens my understanding of the impact of a death like Julie's. I wish your family all the best as you continue to move forward and find the beauty and peace you seek.Nancy/BLissed-Out Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223278142557533175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-83652012612955050022011-08-20T08:53:01.997-06:002011-08-20T08:53:01.997-06:00I am so sorry for your loss and for the pain your ...I am so sorry for your loss and for the pain your children are going through. I can't imagine how difficult it is to explain to kids this horrible reality when it is difficult for grown ups to understand it.I follow you Mom's blog and I can tell you are all such a wonderful loving family. This was such heart felt honest post. I know you have helped others who have suffered a loss like your family has , or better yet this may have stopped someone from taking this path.<br />Blessings, JoanneJoannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01701170619308062747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-82175865339235410052011-08-20T07:08:01.870-06:002011-08-20T07:08:01.870-06:00This is a heart-wrenching post. My cousin's hu...This is a heart-wrenching post. My cousin's husband took his life earlier this year, making my cousin a widow at the age of 30 who must now raise their daughter alone. And their daughter is wheelchair-bound with cerebral palsy. So I know somewhat where you are coming from. Best of luck coping with your grief.JDShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05360470068860788678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-60158180736816185152011-08-20T01:54:38.574-06:002011-08-20T01:54:38.574-06:00I've also followed the story of your family in...I've also followed the story of your family in your mom's blog. I am so sorry for your loss and for the challenge you face in dealing with your grief. You are blessed to have such a caring, loving family. Thanks for sharing your story and helping us understand more about depression. My son had a serious episode with depression two years ago and we were fortunate that medication helped him find level gound again.#1Nanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04214011945298439939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-58419906444795725842011-08-19T20:39:56.401-06:002011-08-19T20:39:56.401-06:00I also am a blogging friend of your mom's, and...I also am a blogging friend of your mom's, and I have been following her journey through the pain and anguish of her (and your) loss. Every picture I have seen of your sister shows a sweet and joyful person, but through your words, and your mom's, I realize that terrible depression Julie dealt with was something I will never understand. I am so sorry for your loss, and I am glad you are sharing your feelings with such grace and honesty. Blessings, Keicha.DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-78406014041010036052011-08-19T19:02:58.369-06:002011-08-19T19:02:58.369-06:00Like Lynilu above, I am a blogging friend of your ...Like Lynilu above, I am a blogging friend of your mom's, Keicha.<br /><br />As someone who has struggled until the past two years with the possibility of suicide, I want to affirm all you are saying about anger and grief. I also applaud you for your resolute decision to help Gillian realize that she is not her aunt.<br /><br />Your words touched me deeply especially your understanding of how desperate Julie must have become. With deep depression--whether it is part of bipolarity or clinical or cyclical--we frequently become like ice within. <br /><br />We lose touch with our feelings. They exist almost outside us. We can play the roles we always played, but we feel nothing. I remember all this well. And I know that when I wrote a note to my father I was thinking of nothing but getting away from myself through death. I could no longer stand myself. All that is different now, but the memory remains of how I would have hurt him if I'd followed through on my plan.<br /><br />As Lynilu said, "I'll hold you" and your mother and your families "in my heart." <br /><br />There is a poem by Emily Dickinson called "After Great Pain a Formal Feeling Comes." That poem is what you are living now.<br /><br />Thank you for your honesty and for sharing your grief and frustration and your dawning realization of what has happened.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-25430352707074419972011-08-18T19:43:31.471-06:002011-08-18T19:43:31.471-06:00I'm a blogging friend of your mom's. I jus...I'm a blogging friend of your mom's. I just want to say to you that, while I know your pain is deep, it makes me sigh with relief that you recognize, acknowledge, and own your feelings, even anger. So often people hide the anger, and at the same time, hide from it. I find your expressed feelings very understandable and normal. It will take you a long time, I'm sure, but don't avoid being honest about it. I admire your strength and your love for your sister and the children, too. <br /><br />I'll hold you in my heart.Lyniluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04742585512852240355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3288945234878607080.post-4586072319126682042011-08-18T15:16:23.058-06:002011-08-18T15:16:23.058-06:00Keicha,
Thank you for writing this. My heart is...Keicha, <br /><br />Thank you for writing this. My heart is breaking as I read this beautifully written, heartfelt, honest account of the pain and suffering that has been a part of the aftermath of Julie's death. <br /><br />Just today, I happened to be looking at photo's from the committal/memorial service we held for Julie in May. I say absolute grief written on the faces of my children and grandchildren that day. I noticed that every single one of us had the same look on our faces. That alone broke my heart all over again. <br /><br />You are wise when you say that we all must be vigilant for signs of depression and its possible devastating results on the lives of those who suffer from it. We must especially be vigilant within our own family. We did lose our innocence as a family. Hopefully, we will not be naive. <br /><br />I love you. XOSally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.com